Creating the Life You Want

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Is life turning out how you thought?  Are you tired of feeling like you aren’t in control of your life?  Then you totally have to check out my takeaways from week three of Oprah and Deepak’s 21-Day Meditation Experience, Getting Unstuck:  Creating a Limitless Life, so you too can begin creating the life you want. Yes, this is a recap of week three, but don’t worry.  If you happened to miss this meditation experience, just click here for my week one takeaways and here for my week two takeaways.  And hopefully you too can find the way to get unstuck and move on toward living a limitless life, through awareness and intention. Cheers!

Intentions, words, actions create your life - Oprah quote - yoursassyself.com

 

Relationships, we all have them. Whether professional or personal, we deal with one relationship or another everyday.  However sometimes we’re not that successful at them because we get stuck. It could be that we don’t feel like we’re cooperating equally; we don’t feel like we’re sharing the good and not so good; and/or it’s that we’ve stopped communicating and can’t get passed confusion, resentment, & misunderstandings. @deepakchopra says that just as it takes two to come into a relationship, it takes two to get unstuck. But thankfully, if you begin with yourself, you can help both get unstuck because the other person’s behavior and attitude is a direct reflection of your consciousness. Yes, according to @oprah the happiness and love you feel is in direct proportion to the happiness and love you give. Ouch! So if you’re harboring negative emotions toward your significant other, boss, coworker, friend, etc. it makes sense that they will reflect those same emotions back toward you because they’re unconsciously mirroring your feelings. If however, you switch those negative feelings with optimistic, open feelings,  then those too will be mirrored back, allowing us to drop our defenses. This is when meditation will help our consciousness to expand, allowing us to be more relaxed, centered, and open to new ideas. To help us reach this state, Deepak says successful relationships need true collaboration to flourish. True collaboration requires cooperation, sharing, and communication. And when we approach our relationships with these things in mind, Deepak says we’re able to creatively relate to one another, which helps both partners get unstuck, soften, and become open to each other again. So the moral of the story here is if you want others to be more open, understanding and loving to you, you need to mirror that to them so they can reflect it back.  It’s definitely a skill not to allow past hurts and experiences to clutter up our awareness, but once were able to quiet those thoughts and live in the moment, magic happens. Here’s to living in the moment! #liveinthemoment #give #relationship #collaboration #cooperation #share #communication #optimistic #open

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Have you ever not felt like yourself, and just decided it would be best to hide out at home, away from people, family, and friends? I know I have. According to @oprah retreating and closing yourself off is a sign of being stuck. But she says our true nature, which is what we were put here on Earth to do, is to be open, share our gifts, and collaborate with the world. Oprah says doing so not only allows us to elevate ourselves, but to elevate others. @deepakchopra agrees. He says that instead of retreating and closing ourselves off when we feel stuck, we need to go out and participate with those around us and show our appreciation for them. He says doing so activates creativity in our lives and in our environment. And as we learned from yesterday’s meditation, when we are present in the moment, attentive, and showing our appreciation for others, with warmth and sincerity to those around us, they have no choice but to mirror those same sentiments back, allowing them to get unstuck and begin participating again. To keep this openness going, Deepak says we need to “be an example of mutual respect at all times,” and make sure everyone around us, personal or professional, knows that we value their contribution. Given the world we live in, I think showing mutual respect, appreciation, sincerity, and warmth to those around us is a great start to not only heal ourselves, but heal the world we live in. What do you think? #healyourself #healtheworld #oprah #deepakchopra #gettingunstuck #meditation #respect #besincere #warm #appreciate #participate #instagood #instameditation

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Do you ever think people are wrong if they don’t think or feel the same way you do? Trust me, I know the feeling, especially when dealing with a significant other. But that’s just ego rearing it’s ugly head? If you’re ready to let go of ego and soften into your true self like Gina Lake’s excerpt from Loving in the Moment suggests, then today’s Getting Unstuck meditation is for you.  It’s meant to help us let go of the need to be right, to actually solve the problem at hand. A new concept I know, but so worth it in keeping the peace within and the peace with any relationship. @deepakchopra says when we argue and insist on our way, what the other person feels is judged, unheard, and frustrated, causing them to retract and close off. And since we’re making them feel like that, they mirror the same emotions back to us, leading us to retract and close up, ending in an impass.  It can become a viscous cycle if we let it, but Deepak says there’s no such thing as an impass. There’s always a solution to every problem, we just have to go in believing it and understanding that there are in fact multiple ways to solve a problem, not just ours. @oprah agrees and says once we choose to be tolerant of others and let them be themselves, everything else improves because answers and solutions come when we let go of ego, judgement, and the need to be right. They come when we soften into our more generous giving selves because dropping out of ego and judgement, makes it difficult for the other to stay in the same state because our nature is to mirror each others emotions. Unfortunately when we feel fear, confusion, anxiety, or distress we generally grab for an immediate solution based on our previous habits, experiences, and perspectives which may or may not offer a solution. However Deepak says if we allow ourselves to breathe and get centered to our creative self, we again become open to allow new solutions in.  Whether from awareness within or by lending a patient and tolerant ear toward others solutions, life and relationships are destined to become more pleasant. Here’s to letting go of ego in favor of a more open and peaceful life. #letgo #beopen #gettingunstuck

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If you’ve been following along @oprah and @deepakchopra’s Getting Unstuck: Creating a Limitless Life meditation experience with me, you’ve got to be enjoying your new found expanded awareness and are probably excited to share it with everyone in your life. It’s totally natural to want to share, but you have to be careful in the manner in which you do it, as Alexandra K. Trenfor’s quote suggests. Both Oprah and Deepak suggest that if you want to encourage transformation in others, that you guide them with compassion and kindness, with little to no judgement, and as much patience as possible, instead of criticizing them for not being as open and enlightened as you, making them feel less than, or controlled when you try to make them go down the same path you did, causing them to retract. Deepak adds that while it can be frustrating to see those you love and care about being stuck, you can’t have them change because you want them to feel the same joy and fulfillment you do. They have to change on their own and not be made to feel like a project or like they need fixing. Makes perfect sense I think. So allow your expanded awareness to keep you open, sympathetic, accepting, and without judgement toward those around you, and you’ll begin to see how they will mirror the same back to you, on their own terms. #guide #teach #withoutjudgement #oprah #deepakchopra #gettingunstuck #meditation #selfawareness #expandedawareness #liveyourlife #letotherslivetheirs #letgo #alexandraktrenfor #quote #instaquote #instameditation

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Yes, people will give you their best if they feel safe with you, but if you tend to approach disagreements with the need to be right, thus making someone else wrong, then your choosing ego over truly identifying what is needed. @ECKHARTTOLLE says “ego loves to make wrong in order to be right” and asks us to really examine what we’re trying to defend. “Are you defending the truth? No, the truth, in any case, needs no defense. You are defending yourself, or rather the illusion of yourself.” That illusion is our ego, which “craves superiority in relation to the person that is being judged”, which is why we get defensive and allow our emotions to escalate. @deepakchopra says that when we vehemently try to get other people to agree with our point of view, we generally aim to coerce, manipulate, or pressure someone to not say what they really think or feel. He calls this a false or selfish yes filled with ego, where again one side wins and the other side loses. However, Deepak says that a true yes is more beautiful and fulfilling because it not only focuses on having our needs being met, but it gives others what they really need too, leaving both sides feeling respected. He adds that we all want to be accepted, validated, seen, heard, made to feel secure, hopeful, and able to express ourselves. And having one or more of these things met on both sides, is the only way two people get to a place of yes, to a place of agreement. That Deepak says, is how we can shape a better world from the level of awareness. I don’t know about you, but I’m down to doing my part to help humanity and compassion return to our world. ? #letgo #sayyes #oprah #deepakchopra #gettingunstuck #meditation #selfimprovement #selfhelp #awareness #quote #instaquote #instameditation #instamotivation

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Yes, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. And as @oprah shared, we’re creating our life every step of the way with our intentions, words, and actions. And as co-creators, @deepakchopra adds that we can choose to accelerate and magnify the process or we can choose to resist and slow it down. Deepak adds that if we don’t allow awareness into our intentions, actions, and words, we’re letting our life be dictated by someone else or random chance. But our true self wants life to be more purposeful and filled with meaning. Awareness helps get us there. So cheers to us all allowing awareness lead us toward the life we want. #oprah #deepakchopra #gettingunstuck #meditation #creating #awareness #fulfillment #selfimprovement #selfhelp #quote

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Yes, @oprah says that the more we allow our awareness to help us transcend old ideas, patterns, and relationships, toward new ideas and ways of seeing and doing things, the more we embrace our infinitely creative soul. And as long as we trust it and grow it, in every moment of our lives, then we are creating a limitless life for ourselves and those around us. Because, as @deepakchopra notes, the more creative and free we are inside, the more that we radiate this love, peace, compassion, and joy to the world around us. And since everything we give is mirrored back to us, we can use our light to unite, heal, and uplift everyone it reaches, opening up the field of infinite possibilities to us and to the rest of humanity. And how cool is that? #livethelifeyoulove #helpothers #becreative #open #aware #liveinthemoment #oprah #deepakchopra #gettingunstuck #meditation #selfimprovement #selfhelp #selfrealization #quote #ramanamaharshi #instaquote #instameditation

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